At one time or another, most of us have had to deal with a feeling of being stuck. We have a sense that "this isn't it", but we may or may not know what we want or how to move towards it.
Let's face it. Even if we know what we want, and we know how to get it, we often still don't do what we need to do to reach our goals!
Why is that? There are many reasons to delay action, and I see a lot of them in my work helping people build self-care mastery. During the next few posts, I'll highlight some of the top reasons why we stay stuck and offer perspectives that can help us break free.
Here's one of the biggest reasons: Some of us stay stuck because we are waiting for permission. Living on purpose requires that we be willing to name our dreams, create an action plan, take initiative, and stay the course until we get the result that we want. Some of us never get started because we get confronted by the Big Question: "Who am I to have a great life?" We are waiting for someone else to give us permission to create a life that inspires us (and others).
We may believe that investing in our dreams and our well-being is selfish. We may feel guilty for wanting to live our best lives because we worry that we will seem ungrateful or greedy. We compare themselves to others and think "Why should I have a great life when others don't?" Sometimes we tell ourselves that we'll get around to going for our dreams when everything (and everyone) else is taken care of.
If you identify with this, here's another way to think about it. Imagine that you are an instrument - one player in the symphony of life. You have your part to play, just as every other instrument does. If you were a Stradivarius violin, how could you make your best music? Of course, it would be silly to refuse to keep yourself in tune or play half-heartedly for fear of competing with or being judged by the other instruments! If you are well-tuned and well-played, your efforts will enhance the music of the whole symphony and could even challenge and inspire others to offer their best!
So, I invite you to consider that self-care mastery isn't just about YOU (although you're GREAT!). It's about who you are in the world - the music you offer and the difference that you make. Keeping yourself "in tune" is a responsibility and an act of stewardship. If you're waiting for permission to shine, why not write yourself a permission slip? In the end, you're the only one who can.
Have you ever found yourself waiting for permission or consciously given yourself permission to take bold action? What was that like? Please share your experiences in the comments below!